How parents can address sibling bullying.

Parents can and should stop bullying. Establish a family culture that does not tolerate aggressive, mean behavior. Intervene immediately when one child hits, pushes, or calls another a name. Model healthy ways to relate and teach children how to treat each other with respect. Monitor and correct bullying as it arises. Be firm and consistent, so children learn what is acceptable and what isn’t.

Minimize jealousy. Praise children even-handedly for their good characteristics and efforts, so they feel equally valued. Make sure each receives recognition and love. Avoid comparing your children or labeling them by identifying “the athletic one” or “the smart one.” Such labels breed jealousy, competition, and contempt.

Hold the bully accountable. Help the bully to see and understand the pain he or she has inflicted. Insist that the bully takes responsibility for his/her actions. Enforce consequences—such as grounding, loss of privileges, and/or mandatory apology—so children understand that bullying will not be tolerated.

Cultivate empathy in children. Identify kind, loving behaviors. Encourage children to try to understand others’ feelings. Emphasize collaboration; create opportunities to work together, supervising for cooperation and harmony.

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