Understanding & Spotting Child Grooming
As parents, one of our most important responsibilities is keeping our children safe—both in the real world and online. One of the biggest threats we must be aware of is child grooming, a tactic predators use to build trust with children in order to exploit them.
What is Grooming?
Grooming is when someone builds a relationship with a child (and sometimes their family) to gain trust and lower defenses. It often happens slowly and subtly, making it difficult to spot at first. Grooming can occur online (through apps, games, or social media) or in-person.
Warning Signs to Watch For:
Excessive Attention: An adult or older teen giving your child more attention, gifts, or favors than seems appropriate.
Secret Communication: Encouraging your child to keep secrets or hiding conversations from parents.
Isolating Behavior: Trying to pull your child away from friends and family to gain control.
Overly Personal Questions: Asking about your child’s feelings, relationships, or private details beyond what’s normal.
Inappropriate Content: Sending or encouraging access to sexual, mature, or harmful materials.
Sudden Behavior Changes: If your child becomes secretive, withdrawn, or unusually protective of devices, it could be a red flag.
How Parents Can Protect Their Kids:
Stay Involved Online: Know what apps, games, and websites your child is using. Set privacy settings together.
Open Communication: Encourage your child to talk to you about anything that makes them uncomfortable.
Teach Boundaries: Make sure your child knows it’s okay to say no and that no adult should ask them to keep secrets.
Monitor Behavior Changes: Trust your instincts—if something feels off, look deeper.
Report Concerns: If you suspect grooming, contact local law enforcement or report through the National Center for Missing & Exploited Children (NCMEC).
Remember: Grooming is not your child’s fault. Predators are skilled at manipulation, which is why awareness and prevention are key.
